This past week we’ve watched a loved one prepare to die. The fact we’ve had six weeks to prepare, helps. The evidence that she is at peace and ready to go, eases the anguish. And her testimony…
“I love my Heavenly Father,
Jesus is my Rock
and the Spirit is my counsellor”
gives us great peace.
But it doesn’t make it oaky.
Most of all I’m just overwhelmingly sad. Especially for those who are
closest. Those who now have a hole that will never be filled. A space that will
gradually shape around a scar and a new way of doing “normal”.
Death is part of life and grief is an integral part of being human: to live
is to experience joy and pain. Yet how we experience grief is intensely
This week I couldn’t help but to reflect, remember, and re-live.
Grief is a savage beast
Dropping its head
it gorges furrows.
Barbed horns brand its name
in blazing letters:
Grief is a selfish beast
twisted in knots.
All that was
Right side wrong.
Grief is a divisive beast
Paring away, isolating
In a custom-made cage.
Evicting from mainstream
Beating its own drum
In stifled … disjointed … time.
Grief is an honest beast.
It knows all.
It sees all.
And it measures worth,
paying its wage in full:
Grief is a heartless beast
Five claws, three claws
No claws, four.
Two steps coping…
One curled up ball;
an echoing, empty shell.
I receive great comfort knowing my God understands what it is to suffer pain and loss. He is not distant, but One who is ever present, always loving, and all comforting. We read in Scripture that multitudes went to Jesus to receive relief from their suffering. And in His compassion, He healed and ministered to them. This is still true today and has been my experience.
10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.Isaiah 41:10
22 So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy.John 16:22
If you are struggling with grief and loss, here are some practical things you can do to help.
How do you cope with grief and loss? What passages do you turn to?